Dealing with Anger
Putting Off These Things
Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds; And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:
Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
Anger and pride are mentioned in the same context in Scripture almost invariably. The Bible teaches us that fighting, arguing, and anger always stems from pride, a self-centeredness and that love and forgiveness stems from self-denial, a heart submissive to God’s authority, a righteous counterpart to anger.
Anger is contagious and is as much a learned habit as it is a natural human response. The more we are exposed to people that are characterized by anger, the more we will be influenced to react in the same way. Our children are not excluded from the power of impact anger will have upon their lives, therefore, we need to withdraw them from this destructive force before it becomes entrenched in their lives by habitual practice.
Anger has the capability of being extremely crippling both internally (physically) and externally if it is not resolved in a righteous way. God’s way in handling this is to put off sinful behavior and deliberately choose to put on the righteous counterpart, which in this case is love. The Lord directs us to confront problems directly and honestly, going to one another in love with the purpose of helping those who have caused hurt to see their offense.
Finally, we must act to solve our part of the problem and If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men (Romans 12:18). We cannot control how others act or respond, but we can make the changes that need to be made on our part. Overcoming anger is not accomplished overnight. Through prayer, Bible study and reliance upon the Holy Spirit, an ungodly temper can be overcome. We may have allowed anger to become a bad habit in our lives, but by practicing a godly response this can become a good habit in itself.
Thought: Anger and unforgiveness seem to travel together so, if you are still wanting people to know what someone has done against you, you probably have not fully forgiven them. Give to them the forgiveness that our Lord has given to you through the gift of grace lavished upon you. Ephesians 1:7 In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace; Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Maybe you need to offer someone grace and promise to pray for them every day, ask for their forgiveness and grant them the same and tell them you will be their friend always. If through this trial you are not the friends you once were, you can still pray for them, love them and forgive them to the praise and glory of Jesus Christ.