A Woman’s Response to Submission
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
The overall responsibility of all believers is to submit to one another. Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God (Ephesians 5:21). We submit mutually to each other, being more concerned about the other person than we are ourselves. We are to approach all of our relationships with humility, with unselfishness, self-denial, and a desire to meet the needs of the other person.
As we walk in the Spirit of God, it is commanded that every Christian wife be in subjection to her own husband. This submission is not the husband’s to command but for the wife to willingly and lovingly offer to her husband. Her attitude shows a loving act of obedience and a willing spirit to submit to her husband as unto the Lord–––who has given this command regardless of her husband’s personal worthiness or spiritual condition.
God's original design was very clear, one man, one woman together for life, the very best God has to offer. We are reminded of Genesis 3:16 where God cursed man and woman for the sin that they committed. The woman, as a result of the curse, seeks to rule man and desires control not submission. The man, also cursed, is given to overpowering the woman, crushing her, conquering her, and thus the conflict of marriage continues.
There is a limit to what is appropriate in this role of submission. It does not mean that a woman submits to her husband in that which dishonors God. In Acts 5:29, the apostles said when commanded not to preach, “We must obey God and not men.” If circumstances reach a point where you are faced with dishonoring God, you have to choose to obey God rather than man. Vashti in the book of Esther, the first wife of the king, was asked to dance a lewd dance before a drunken crowd and she refused and rightly so.
Do you have a husband who is a trial to you, either because he's unsaved or he's a disobedient believer? Has your husband failed to fulfill all of your hopes and expectations for what you wanted in a husband? Are you gravely disappointed and frustrated under his authority? Have you thought he cares little for how you feel, or that it how it seems? Dear wife, all the more reason to be submissive, to demonstrate to him a meekness, a purity, a respectful kind of behavior, all the more reason not only to adorn the outside by putting on a pretty dress or wearing gold jewelry, or fixing your hair, but adorn your heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God and I might say, every man's dream.
1 Peter 3:1-4: Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Thought: Respond to your husband submissively, as if you were responding to Jesus Christ. This is God’s will and when you submit to your husband, you are responding as if to Christ Himself. Paul points out the reason for this submission in Ephesians 5:23, "For the husband is the head of the wife." That's the design of God, that's His divine plan. Just as a body submits to the brain which is in the head by design, so the wife submits to the husband who is the head. When you see a body that does not respond to the head, you see something that is not normal. When a wife does not submit, there is deviation from the design of God causing the relationship between the husband and wife to be dysfunctional. God has designed the body to respond to the head and has designed the husband to be the head of the wife.