Teaching Your Children (part II)
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
Teach Your Children: To carefully select their companions –– Proverbs 1:11-18, “If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause: Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit: We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil: Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse: My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path: For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood. Surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird. And they lay wait for their own blood; they lurk privily for their own lives.”
The power of association speaks volumes in shaping the character of a young person’s life. It is so important that we, as parents, help to mold our children’s moral strength by initiating proper friends and friendships. The intimidating force of peer pressure is overwhelming at times and often the way to entice those who lack God’s wisdom and parental guidance. The goal of good parenting is to produce wise children who know and honor God with their lives Proverbs 23:24 shows the end result of raising children according to God’s plan: “The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.” Proverbs 2:10-15, “When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul; Discretion shall preserve (watch over) thee, understanding shall keep thee: To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward (perverted) things; Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness; Who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness (perverseness) of the wicked; Whose ways are crooked, and they (are devious) froward in their paths:”
Teach Your Children: To control their sinful desires –– Proverbs 2:16-19, “To deliver thee from the strange (forbidden) woman, even from the stranger (adulteress) which flattereth with her words; Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead. None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life.” ( Also Proverbs 5:3-5; 6:23-33; 7:6-27). Seduction is deceptive and flattering words make one servile, a slave, which suggests a cringing submissiveness. The wise father will help teach their young men that this kind of sin leads to bondage and irreversible regret, and to daughters, it results in painful loss. Help your children to see the lies of the entertainment world promoting sinful desires as healthy and participation in such things as acceptable. The lies of Satan are harmful and undeniably destructive. The lips of honey should be part of the sweetness of marriage in a true love God gives. “Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon” Song of Solomon 4:11.
Teach Your Children: To watch their words –– Proverbs 10:32, “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness (speaks what is perverse).” Proverbs 12:18, “There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.” Our words are to bring life and health and should never be cutting, evil or with intent to cause pain. (Proverbs 4:24; 10:11,19-21; 12:22; 15:1-2,7; 16:23; 20:15). “The tongue” is used throughout Scripture in both literal and metaphorical ways, especially in Psalms, Proverbs and James. The tongue is a “small part of the body” (James 3:5), yet Proverbs 18:21 says it “has the power of life and death.” This holds true whether we’re speaking of spiritual, physical or emotional “life and death.” Obviously, a literal, fleshly tongue cannot crush the human spirit, but the words the tongue produces can. What our tongue produces has eternal implications, for it reveals what is in our heart.
Thought: Encouragement often comes through spoken words ––– so does discouragement. Reckless words pierce like a sword (Proverbs 12:8). The wound is emotional, and it is deep. What we say to our children can have a profound effect on them and what they say to others, likewise.
Controlling sinful desires keeps one from ruin and destruction, as well as, from being enslaved to inappropriate and immoral passions. Guide your children in appropriate behavior towards the opposite sex in the way that they act and talk. “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt . . .” (Colossians 4:6).
Help your children to find friends that will encourage them to live godly lives and bring honor to God throughout their relationship. Parents, being an example before your children in what a true friend should be, is the best way for them to understand what a genuine and sincere friend really looks like.
Proverbs 23:26 ~ My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.