Psalms 127:3 KJV
Lo, (behold, observe) children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
The starting place for training children is to teach them to honor their father and their mother. We have all seen children scream at their mother or father in the store when they did not receive what they wanted. That is not a picture of honoring a parent. The mommy/daddy relationship is the first relationship a child will experience and must be the first moral principle a child needs to learn. “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land ...” (Exodus 20:12). This is the only command with a promise.
Ephesians 6:1 says, “Children, obey your parents...” Obedience does not come naturally to anyone because of Adam’s sin (Romans 5:12). Therefore, parents are faced with two major obstacles in training their children: first, the world they live in and second, their own sinful nature. As children grow into their teen years, rebellion can surface. The entertainment world has taken the place of parents teaching the Word of God in the home and they grow up with the idea that sin is fun and exciting. (Parents, be mindful of what your children are watching. Not all programs are wrong to watch but some will affect them later in life).
Children most definitely need encouragement and caring instruction. They need correction whether it be corporal punishment, (spanking), or loving verbal instruction with the loss of something they enjoy. Parents cannot afford to be passive or inconsistent because children need a parent’s good example to inspire them. Parents need to be careful not to crush the spirit of a child with excessive discipline and being to eager to punish. They can cause a child to become angry when they are pressured to achieve, but are never encouraged or comforted when they fail. This is a sure way to provoke a child to frustration and maybe even rebellion.
Lord, give me wisdom to train my children to obey.