So, Who’s in Charge?
The Lord is instructing Israel to teach their children and their children’s children to love and obey God. To listen and be careful to observe all that God commands them to do and they will prosper in the land. Though this promise is given to the Israelites, it is a principle of truth that we can follow in our attempt to teach our children “in the way they should go” (Proverbs 22:6).
We’ve all seen and heard children acting out their sinful natures in public. Uh-oh, wonder who’s in charge now? Ignoring the situation is popular in our culture today. Just keep shopping and they’ll loose interest. No, we’ve never seen that work, not one time. The screaming and crying accelerates and little Susie turns shades of red we’ve never seen to get her way. Mom acts like she hears and sees nothing. This opposes God’s intention for the home and the peace and tranquility for regular Wal-mart shoppers ceases.
Some parents refuse to take their children out in pubic. They won’t go to restaurants, grocery stores or most anywhere with them so they won’t be humiliated. That means the child is in charge of where they go, when they go and how long they will stay. Why? Maybe they didn’t read the handbook? The Bible tells them that they’re in charge and this authority is given by God (Ephesians 6:1-3).
So, how do I recover from this parental authority crisis? Our God is Sovereign and He’s in charge of all things. His design for the family is that He be first in our homes. Placing God in His rightful position begins the change needed to develop a home that is not child-centered. (Not to say that you’ll be trouble free.) Letting children know that some changes will be made and that you’re seeking God’s wisdom is a good start. Then, follow God’s plan for training children. Seek help from Godly people, read good books and pray.
Lord, help me to make changes that honor You.