Words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious. . .
What do you do when your preadolescent child, a boy, comes to you and says, “I want to be a girl?” With today’s culture, and the changing of traditional values, I’m sure it happens more than we would like to admit. Still, the question is how would you respond to this young boy’s statement? If you rush in too hard and approach your 10 year old with overwhelming information, it may cause them to identify more with this type of life-stye.
As their parent, you need to calmly help them through the biblical definitions of male and female and God’s purpose and plan for them. Should you be concerned? Yes, of course, but do not over react to what your child has said. They may have just heard this expressed by someone at school, or a friend and they’re testing the water using you as their sounding board. Ask them questions and don’t assume that they have grasped what they just repeated to you. Most likely, they don’t understand what is happening to them physically and what they are feeling emotionally. Be careful not to show a negative approach to this statement causing an adverse or damaging response. Your angry response may fuel a wrong desire and cause them to retaliate against you.
A parent needs to teach their child that sex and sexuality is positive, good and holy. The right kind of Biblical approach towards sex helps a child put things in the proper perspective. Of course, sex and the sexual desires of a young person need to be taught with the age of the child in mind. But unfortunately, most children are taught or are made to think that sex is bad. This causes them to have a negative view of what God has deemed virtuous, pure, and perfectly designed by Him. Parenting through the hard questions or declarations a child may bring to you takes wisdom that only our God can give.
Lord, fill my words with Your grace.