Divorce, A Complicated Life
“. . . whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
To say that sin makes a mess of one’s life would underestimate the consequences of our sinful nature. Sin's outcome can haunt us for the rest of our lives and some may feel it can bring untold ruin upon the family name. Because sin does complicate our lives, we sometimes make wrong choices that bring severe ramifications and devastating after effects.
The decision to divorce is one of those life changing alternatives. We have found ourselves at one of life’s most important crossroads with an extremely difficult decision to make. Are you thinking no one knows exactly how you feel or understands the pressures shaping your decision? If you are thinking this, you’ll be relieved to know you are wrong. God’s Word offers a comprehensive guide to answering those questions.
In Bible times, divorce was running rampant and men, especially, were divorcing their wives for any reason. God’s Word is clear in saying the bond between a husband and wife is dissolved only by death (Romans 7:2), adultery (Matthew 19:9), and an unbeliever’s leaving (I Corinthians 7:15,16). When the bond, or bondage, is broken in any of those ways, a Christian is free to remarry. Throughout Scripture, whenever legitimate divorce occurs, remarriage is assumed.
Because God has called us to live in peace (Romans 12:18; 1 Corinthians 7:15), God allows divorce in such a case of desertion. If the unbelieving husband or wife desires to be free from the union because they cannot tolerate the spouse’s faith, it is better the marriage be dissolved in order to preserve the peace of His child. Fighting, turmoil, physical, and verbal abuse disrupt the harmony and peace of the home that God intends His children to have. Therefore, divorce is acknowledged and granted by concession.
It is important to make clear that even if adultery occurs, God forgives, the bottom line of everything is the act of God’s grace.
Lord, in life’s devastation, thank You for Your grace.